Welcome to this 2-part episode of the 21st century health nuts,
This will be a two-part release, this post (part-1) will look at the current social and psychological paradigm of self-esteem, its pitfalls, and look deeper into the sociological impacts governed by and contributing to the issues. The following post (part-2) will define, analyse and critically assess the viability of self-compassion as an alternative in our world as it stands. So let's get started...
Self-esteem and the consequences
For the past decade the primary measure of psychological health has been self-esteem [1]. Self-esteem is defined as a global evaluation of your own worth, you ask, 'How good am I?' and you respond 'Hmm pretty poor to be honest' or 'I'm the best thing going!' Recently however, researchers have begun to criticize self-esteem, to ask the question 'How good am I?' must relate to some predetermined standard of what good is, alongside the requirement for social comparison, 'I am better/worse than that person.' This inevitably results in self-evaluation in relation to the performance of others. Social comparison is never a good idea, if you truly are worse than somebody it is detrimental to motivation and happiness (feel of less value), and if you truly are better than them motivation begins to slide and happiness along with it (as a result of complacency and lack of future
goals) [2]. Nowadays, social media sites (such as facebook) make social comparison almost unavoidable, even provoking jealous, envy, or pity with a specific type of status. Furthermore, these standards are typically defined by the media, for example body image has never been a bigger issue than it is now [3] men and women alike are having to compete with the most sexually desirable celebrities to be considered worthy of attraction and affection. It cannot be disputed that low levels of self-esteem is linked with negative psychological mind states such as stress, depression, anxiety, sadness, and suicidal ideation [1]. However, it is less clear that high self-esteem is the panacea suggested. As well as being highly resistant to change [4], if changed to high self-esteem some negative corollaries are associated. For example, Damon [5] and Seligman [6] argue that an over-emphasis on evaluation can result in narcissism, self-absorption, self-centredness, and a lack of concern for others. Which makes sense, how do you present yourself in best light compared to others? You observe the worst traits of those surrounding you. Or as a child lacking the psychological skills to manipulate reality you physically assert superiority (bullying). Supporting this high self-esteem is also correlated to increased prejudice [1,7] and the use of aggression and violence to thwart any person or persons threatening the ego [8].
goals) [2]. Nowadays, social media sites (such as facebook) make social comparison almost unavoidable, even provoking jealous, envy, or pity with a specific type of status. Furthermore, these standards are typically defined by the media, for example body image has never been a bigger issue than it is now [3] men and women alike are having to compete with the most sexually desirable celebrities to be considered worthy of attraction and affection. It cannot be disputed that low levels of self-esteem is linked with negative psychological mind states such as stress, depression, anxiety, sadness, and suicidal ideation [1]. However, it is less clear that high self-esteem is the panacea suggested. As well as being highly resistant to change [4], if changed to high self-esteem some negative corollaries are associated. For example, Damon [5] and Seligman [6] argue that an over-emphasis on evaluation can result in narcissism, self-absorption, self-centredness, and a lack of concern for others. Which makes sense, how do you present yourself in best light compared to others? You observe the worst traits of those surrounding you. Or as a child lacking the psychological skills to manipulate reality you physically assert superiority (bullying). Supporting this high self-esteem is also correlated to increased prejudice [1,7] and the use of aggression and violence to thwart any person or persons threatening the ego [8].
To be called mediocre or average is nothing short of an insult in the 21st century, we are not content unless we are above average. Obviously we cannot all be above average and so we allow ourselves to inflate our perception of ourselves; enter narcissism (exaggerated view of one's own value, craving for admiration, and selfishness). Recently, our facebook page released a narcissism personality index (NPI) test to see how narcissistic we all are, the reason for this is that narcissism is on the increase, and has been for over 30 years. A study by Twenge & Foster [9] re-assessed the results of three meta-analysis' of contradicting views on narcissism and controlled for the significant effect of different campus' as data collection and comparison points concluding that, between 1982-2009, NPI scores significantly increased a) in a nationwide meta-analysis, b) within campus in large samples from a southern University. It is a perfectly acceptable position to hold that the degree of narcissism in USA college students has not increased at all, but a cultural development has resulted in students being more honest, resulting in increasing NPI scores. However, strong evidence supports the notion that narcissistic behaviour is increasing; number of unique names given to newborns is increasing [9],
more popular songs include narcissistic and individualistic lyrics [10], high school students express unrealistically high expectations for success [11], and the number of plastic surgery cases is increasing [12]. Additionally, a clinical report [13] employed structured clinical interviews as opposed to self-reported means of data collection deducing that in a national representative population of 34,653 Americans (2004-2005) 3.2% of subjects aged over 65 had experienced narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), whereas 5.6% aged 45-64, 7.1% aged 30-44, and 9.4% aged 20-29. If there was no newborn cohort then the older subjects with many more years of experience should display a greater percentage of NPD encounters. Narcissism is a serious social and psychological problem, people high in this trait fail to help others unless there is immediate recognition to themselves for doing so. They often trample others in an effort to rise to the top where they believe they belong and are commonly unhappy with the world not recognising their superiority. Narcissists typically display low empathy traits, empathy refers to the ability and tendency to view the world from points of view other than your own, to share in others' joy and sorrow and to care about their well-being. And so with this increase in NPI scores and NPD experiences illustrating the cultural effect of self-esteem it can concluded that the aforementioned negative effects of self-esteem (such as self-absorption, self-centredness, lack of concern for others, increased prejudice, bullying, violence and aggression in defense of own ego) are also unnecessarily existing in our current environment.
more popular songs include narcissistic and individualistic lyrics [10], high school students express unrealistically high expectations for success [11], and the number of plastic surgery cases is increasing [12]. Additionally, a clinical report [13] employed structured clinical interviews as opposed to self-reported means of data collection deducing that in a national representative population of 34,653 Americans (2004-2005) 3.2% of subjects aged over 65 had experienced narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), whereas 5.6% aged 45-64, 7.1% aged 30-44, and 9.4% aged 20-29. If there was no newborn cohort then the older subjects with many more years of experience should display a greater percentage of NPD encounters. Narcissism is a serious social and psychological problem, people high in this trait fail to help others unless there is immediate recognition to themselves for doing so. They often trample others in an effort to rise to the top where they believe they belong and are commonly unhappy with the world not recognising their superiority. Narcissists typically display low empathy traits, empathy refers to the ability and tendency to view the world from points of view other than your own, to share in others' joy and sorrow and to care about their well-being. And so with this increase in NPI scores and NPD experiences illustrating the cultural effect of self-esteem it can concluded that the aforementioned negative effects of self-esteem (such as self-absorption, self-centredness, lack of concern for others, increased prejudice, bullying, violence and aggression in defense of own ego) are also unnecessarily existing in our current environment.
Other factors contributing to the 'me' society
Nevertheless, self-esteem only correlates .25 to narcissism and so there must be other cultural changes that have caused increases in self-absorbed personality traits. Interestingly, a decline in children's free-play time with other children has been documented [14,15]. Free-play is linked with increased empathy, the ability to get along with others, the capacity to problem solve and deal effectively with fear and anger (thus effectively safeguard against anxiety and depression) [14]. It has even been recognized that mental disorders in young Americans has steadily increased between 1938 - 2007 [16]. The study concludes by stating that like all individual characteristics psychopathological symptoms are determined by a number of factors, genetics offer much more explanation that an individuals family environment as a predictor of neuroticism. However large changes in the Minnesota multiphasic personality inventory (MMPI) scores demonstrate that there are also strong cultural influence on psychiatric symptoms. That is, an environmental influence outside of the individual family. Over time, culture has increasingly shifted towards an environment in which more and more young people experience poor mental health and psychopathology, possibly due to an increased focus on money, appearance, and status rather than on community and close relationships. Moreover, free-play is by definition voluntary and so when engaging child X must accept the perspective and wishes of child Y, otherwise child Y will leave. A harsh punishment for a mammalian infant hardwired for communication and growth. And so child X must now try harder to accommodate for child Y, this cycle is perpetually improving the communication and intra- and inter-personal skills of the subjects. Furthermore, children are raised in an extremely competitive environment where winning at any cost is the only option. We have never been more closely linked to celebrities, this proximity to celebrity status has furthered the drive for fame and success, this alongside the life lesson that others are solely obstacles to be beaten or tools to be manipulated to get to the next goal results in an individualistic and self-absorbed society. Of course in this type of society we are going to lack empathy, prejudice those from other background to reinforce the solidity of our origins. And why would we give up our time to help others if it won't fit onto our CV? If not then why bother?
Finally, if all of the points made do not get you questioning whether self-esteem is the best paradigm for yourself and this culture, consider that self-esteem is contingent on success, if we fail our global value must decrease unless everyone else in the world failed too. How do we remove ourselves from this perpetual battle to perceive ourselves as better than all the rest?
Finally, if all of the points made do not get you questioning whether self-esteem is the best paradigm for yourself and this culture, consider that self-esteem is contingent on success, if we fail our global value must decrease unless everyone else in the world failed too. How do we remove ourselves from this perpetual battle to perceive ourselves as better than all the rest?
Conclusion
As you can see there are many flaws with the current aim of promoting , achieving, and maintaining high self-esteem. The benefits of self-esteem come hand in hand with negative psychological traits that are so common we consider them socially desirable. Self-compassion is a contemporary model that offers the benefits of self-esteem without the pitfalls of egotistical isolation upon failure. Many argue that compassion is not only 'fluffy' but a surefire road to passivity, complacency, and being exploited. I sincerely hope that your inquisitive and open-minded nature will encourage you to read the coming post and decide for yourself whether or not self-compassion is non-sense or the pathway to an improved life.
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